What I Wish Everyone Had a Chance to Read

Wow, that’s a powerful statement, huh?  Eliz over at Mirth & Motivation is doing a blog hop this week and suggested that we post on this subject.  How do I focus on just one thing with that topic?  I could focus on love, but I did that last week.  How about something that changed my life and could possibly have an impact on yours?


There, I said it.  That is the best advice I can give.

I’ve talked about my year from hell (healthwise) here, so I won’t bore you with those details.  What I learned from that year of hell, I will forever use in taking care of myself.  It took me being adamant with my doctors telling them of my severe joint pain, heart issues, breathing issues, on & on.  It took me keeping a food journal to see what reactions I had to certain foods (sleep patterns, pain, etc.).  I then had to take the hard route…I had to give up my beloved red meat.  I could have just continued on with the beta-blockers + the asthma medicine + the pain killers for the joint pain +++++ until my medicine cabinet was TRULY a medicine cabinet!  Instead, I CHOSE to take care of myself and actually fix the problems.

Don’t simply accept it when your doctor hands you a pill and says take this because it will fix your problem.  Pills mask problems, they seldom fix them.  There are many in my family who have those pill sorters to take all their pills 3 times a day.  There are some in my family who hand the doctors a spreadsheet of all their physical issues.  We need to get active, figure out the true problem, and do what we can to live life to the fullest!

After the heart surgery and giving up all mammals, I have no need for heart meds, no need for asthma meds (reaction to the heart meds), no need for pain killers…I simply take one Zyrtek a day with my vitamins and I’m done (they’re doing an allergy panel next month to see what I’m allergic to, so we can get that corrected soon as well).

As many of you reading this know, my grandmother died 2 weeks ago.  We believe it was from the same heart issue that I had.  If I had not had the surgery, my heart could have continued down the same path.

You may say that you aren’t able to function without xyz pill because it takes the pain away.  Look at the underlying reason for your pain.  Is it inflammation?  If it’s inflammation related, research inflammation free diets and try cutting out certain foods for 30 days to see what happens.    You may be amazed that the inflammation goes down to a level where you need a smaller dose, or you may be able to get rid of the pills altogether.  Our bodies are amazing machines that have to be loved and nurtured.

So, once again, take the time to TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF.  You MUST be your own advocate because there is no one out there that knows your body and health as well as you do.


Goals for February

I realize it is already the 7th of February, but who says we can only start goals the first of the month?  🙂

Here are my goals to accomplish between now and March 7th.


  1. Zumba at least 4 times a week
  2. Participate in at least 2 zumba events


  1. Get better at checking everything at work before sending it out
  2. Clear off my desk daily


  1. Get homework finished early for my English class


  1. Work on Ancestry 10 minutes a day
  2. Be more diligent about posting (WordPress) every day
  3. Build a vision board



During the last year, I’ve really taken an in depth look at my relationships.  It started with a life-long friend who it appeared on the surface that we had just drifted apart.  At one point my friend Le’s husband R asked me, “Debs, why are you even friends with her?”  I absolutely could not answer the question.  This person was all about me when she was focused on me, but would switch to someone else as soon as the mood struck & I wouldn’t hear from her again for months, sometimes years, at a time.  She would stop answering emails, avoid phone calls, etc.  We even had a group of friends who would make plans monthly (reservations, or lunch parties) and she would inevitably text me the day of the event with one excuse or another.  So in answer to R’s question?  I drew a complete blank.  Hit a brick wall!  When I confronted her about it, she called me childish, selfish, and a few other choice names that WordPress would not appreciate.  So, I ended the friendship to avoid having further disappointment.

Throughout the year, I found that I had a few other disturbing friendships and decided to let them fall to the wayside as well.

In November, I looked at my Facebook account.  I had more than 550 friends; many of whom were simply acquaintances that I had not heard from since the initial friend request.  I took a good hard look at each of those 550+ “friends” and decided that if I wouldn’t be willing to call them on the phone, there is no reason to keep us as friends.  I got that list down to 219 & some days I find that is still too many.

Yesterday I went to the doctor.  I’ve loved, loved, loved my general practitioner since I met him (and he helped me through the psycho craziness of my health without totally scaring me).  His PA, on the other hand, not so much.  He always talks super fast.  He is direct and to the point (unlike most Southern USA people I know).  And I never felt like he was as friendly as my GP.  My GP was out of the office and I could hear him in the next room with a patient.  He was very thorough asking methodical questions (why are the walls so thin in that office??).  He asked question after question, found out the patient’s fears and symptoms, tied them in with other symptoms that she had never thought of, etc.  As I sat there I thought to myself, “Why do I dislike him so much?  What could I possibly have for disliking him when we’ve only met twice?”  Maybe it was the first impression when I was super sick, had a sky high fever and they were still trying to figure out all my other ailments.  Who knows?  I decided I would give him another chance for a first impression.

He walked into the room and smiled asking how everything was going.  He then started looking through my gigantic chart (have I really only been seeing this GP since 9/09 and my chart is THAT huge?) trying to find a previous instance of bloodwork.  I told him that he’d have to go back to the beginning.  He started comparing, making jokes, telling me new things of concern (vitamin D, LDL, sugar levels) telling me how proud he is of me doing Zumba and losing weight.  He suggested an app for my iPhone.  He suggested a vitamin regimen (to try to work everything out before using prescriptions), and he said he’d like to do bloodwork again in 3 months (along with a new allergy panel) to see how this regimen is working out for me.

WOW  I actually like this guy!  What it the world did I have against him?  He cares about his patients, he talks fast & is to the point, but he has other patients to get to.  He suggests regimens that aren’t 100% prescription.  NICE!

Maybe I should look at other relationships that give off negative vibes…maybe, just maybe, it’s me!


I’m addicted to Zumba!  In just the short time since I started doing Zumba a few times a week, I’ve gone down 2 pants sizes!  The last two weeks I’ve been terribly sick and unable to go, but hope to go back on Monday.

Many people join gyms in January hoping to keep their New Year’s resolution of getting fit, or working out 3 times a week.  I don’t look forward to the gym being suddenly crowded, especially on Mondays.  People goof off all weekend and think that Monday is always the best day to go back.  I bet there will be 150 people in my class on Monday.  The bad news: many won’t know the steps & will bump into me while exercising.  The good news:  there will be so many in the room that sweat will pour off of me & I’ll burn even more calories!!